Sexy Substance
Did you catch Sunday’s episode of “The Real Housewives of Potomac”?! 😮
In the episode titled,” Land of the Free, Home of the Shade”, Wendy Osefo, one of the housewives was confronted by a few of her castmates as having drastically changed and appearing to no longer have substance.
To give you some backstory, Wendy Osefo is a wife, mother of 3, a political commentator ,and professor at John Hopkins. Wendy joined the cast last year after having just given birth to her third child. When being introduced to the other ladies, Wendy was always quick to boast about her credentials and that fact that she has multiple degrees.
Fast forward to the current season, which opens with Wendy hosting a party for the ladies to introduce them to her new breasts and booty, we see a Wendy fully embracing a bolder, sexier side. This leaves the other ladies are wondering, “Where is the Wendy we were initially introduced to?”
What’s really going on?
Watching the episode and Wendy having to defend herself against attacks from the other ladies claiming she no longer has substance was triggering for me…sorta. LOL! At one point during the confrontation, Wendy yelled, “don’t try to put me in a box!” Yes!!! I get it… I actually made an IG post about that very same thing a couple of weeks ago(seen here).
Although I have always tapped into my femininity and sex appeal, launching this Naked Memoir project was unchartered territory even for me. 😜 I had to really sit with the possible repercussions. And one of the things that pushed me to move forward is that I want to change the narrative on…a lot of things. One of those things being that you have to fit in a box. Yes, I’m an attorney with multi-state licensure and a legal career that spans almost 20 years… BUT in addition to that…I’m a multifaceted human being with a plethora of interests and curiosities. I refuse to be put in a box. I can be sexy one day…and totally NOT sexy the next. LOL! And on both days, I’m still an attorney with multistate licensure and a legal career that spans almost 20 years. Catch.
What I think is going on.
Once you become a wife and mother, you lose yourself a little in those roles. Some stay buried, others(like me) dig their way out, back to themselves. It’s a fight. It’s like you literally are being buried alive and you are digging/clawing your way back to the surface. Once you inhale that first breath of air after digging yourself up and out, you are liberated! You’re like, “hey girl! There you are! I knew you were there!” And there’s no going back….
I believe part of that is what’s happening with Wendy. I think her fight to “find” herself again is manifesting itself in her new attitude, appearance, and exploration of starting a business. She keeps repeating…”I have to do something for me.” Yes, you do. There is so much programming out there that tells women once we are mothers our lives are over and should revolve around our children. I’m no psychiatrist but that seems unhealthy🤔. If you have built your entire existence around raising your child, once they are living their lives what will you do?
Explore those interests now. You want to reinvent yourself? Do that shit. You want to start a business/side hustle? Do that shit. You want to write a book. Do that shit. Or, you just want to get back to your sexy(but even sexier)? Do that shit.
Cause you CAN be sexy and have substance. As a matter of fact, you can be/do ANYTHING you put your mind to it.
Here’s to being anything!
Chic-a, The Self-love Advocate
