Life Lessons: 45 Things I’ve Learned about Love, Business, Motherhood & Self
It’s my birthday! Yep, it’s my birthday!(Insert gif of me twerking) I’m 45 years young and in honor of my 45th birthday, I’ve compiled a list of things I’ve learned about life and the pursuit of happiness that I want to share with you(some of these might surprise you). Alright here it goes…
About BUSINESS…
Having a “good” idea is not enough.
Scared money don’t make none.
Before money is exchanged, there has to be a level of trust.
Perfection is the enemy of progress.
Family/friends are not obligated to patronize your business.
Cash isn’t always king; sometimes creativity is.
You need to have a “no haggle” policy, especially as a small business.
Time is the true metric for wealth, not money.
Risks should be calculated.
Sometimes the juice isn’t worth the squeeze; beware.
You can’t be in the big leagues moving small time.
About LOVE…
No one can complete you.
Monogamy isn’t natural. It takes effort.
Who you are attracted to depends on your priorities at the time.
No one will have ALL of what you want. You have to decide what’s important to you.
What’s important to you can change over time.
Communication is more about listening than talking.
It’s ok to date for fun or to be social.
You can’t demand love.
There is someone who will accept you for who you are. But you have to accept yourself first.
Your partner shouldn’t be your everything.
For a relationship to work all parties have to be invested in it’s success.
About MOTHERHOOD…
I don’t own my child. I am here to love, guide, protect, & support her.
My child is her own person.
I parent better when I’m not feeling depleted.
My daughter values my time and attention more than THINGS.
Sometimes you have to apologize to your child.
Mom guilt is real.
It does take a village…to nurture a child AND a mother.
It’s not my child’s(or anyone’s) responsibility to fulfill me.
It’s ok(actually necessary) to pursue and have interests outside of being a mom.
My daughter watches EVERYTHING I say and do; it’s flattering and humbling.
Childhood is fleeting…cherish this time as much as possible.
About SELF…
I am in control of my life.
People will disappoint you; you will disappoint people.
No one is above reproach or infallible.
Setting/enforcing boundaries is PARAMOUNT with EVERYONE.
Balance is key.
Life is comprised of seasons.
Mistakes can be your best teacher.
There is no such thing as Superwoman.
Self-love is holistic: it involves the mind, body, & spirit.
My womanhood isn’t a weakness; it’s an asset.
I will have what I’m supposed to have, when I’m supposed to have it.
*Bonus Lesson: I am enough!
This list isn’t exhaustive after all I’m only 45…there’s more living to do and lessons to be learned. Stay tuned…
Here’s to living and learning! What are some life lessons you have learned?
Chic-a, the Self-love Advocate
