Are you choosing yourself?

Story time: 🙇🏾‍♀️ The other day while at First Watch waiting for my to-go order, I was talking to a young woman there picking on an order for Door Dash.

She told me how she was struggling and started working for Door Dash because the father of her kids(the newest baby being only 9 months old) left her and took the car(she was borrowing her mom’s car). I was like wow, I’m so sorry to hear that. 😢 She then goes on to say “That’s what I get for choosing a man 20yrs older than me”. I told her don’t do that; Don’t you take ownership of his actions. We said our good byes. But the whole exchange got me to thinking…🤔

When relationships go south, why do we always shoulder the blame? Women are often told (mostly by men 🙃) to “choose better”. And I agree(to some extent)…Choose better, choose yourself.

What does that look like? Everyone is looking for a blueprint or magic formula that solves all of your problems. News flash: there isn’t one. 🙃 YOU have to decide what “choosing yourself” looks like in YOUR life. Is it setting/enforcing stronger boundaries? Is it walking away from a toxic relationship? Is it taking a leap of faith towards a goal?

It’s all of those things and then some…but you won’t know until you DO IT. 👊🏿 And trust me…it’ll be one of the best decisions you’ve ever made for yourself.

What are you thoughts? How do you choose yourself?

Chic-a, The Self-Love Advocate

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